What do you do in moments when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you are not quite sure why or what to do about it? In this report, you will learn a simple technique to get to the heart of what you are feeling and find the message in it, so that you can take actions to move you ahead.
Do you need to take something to make the feeling go away? Do you divert yourself by focusing on something else? Do you analyze it until you come up with a story that makes sense?
These are all natural inclinations which can have value. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of this very same feeling over and over. Identifying with the stories we tell about our adventures can make them stick and repeat. We tend to believe our stories and tell them again and again, so our life replays at a self-fulfilling loop.
So, what can you do in such uncomfortable moments that would change things, guide you forward, and initiate something new? Here’s a simple technique called Accessing Your Emotional Centerline.
The minute you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, rather than jumping right into analyzing it and finding a story to describe it, see if you’re able to just sit with the sensation, be present with it, and get under it.
1. Add a mental pause, let go of thinking, and pay attention to the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: from your neck, through the middle of your chest, to your lower abdomen. Placing your palms together in prayer posture, as in the picture above, can help you tune into this centerline. Focusing on sensations along your Emotional Centerline quiets the believing mind and enables you to get your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.
Inquire into the specific sensations in this region of your body. Is it tight, compressed, blocked, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, empty, raw, tingly, fluttering, rising…?
2. Pay attention to these sensations mindfully. In other words, see if it is possible to accept the sensations completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can get familiar with the felt sensation without telling a story about being consumed by it.
3. See if you can label the exact feeling the sensation represents. You’ll feel a”yes” when you have the right label. Is it anger, sadness, Bat Poop, fear, anxiety, joy, enthusiasm,…?
4. As soon as you’ve identified the emotion you’re feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the sensation along your Mental Centerline and address your question here. Notice what comes into your awareness. It might be a nonverbal knowing, specific words, an image, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something… Just notice what arises, stay with it, and let it grow in clarity.
If nothing arises in this moment, see if you can maintain an awareness of your Emotional Centerline as you go about your day. Notice what you know as you do this.
As you practice these four steps again and again, you’ll find you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in uncomfortable, edgy feelings or overly-identified along with your usual stories about what they mean. You’ll discover there’s a deeper guidance under the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of everything you need to do in this moment. Sometimes this wisdom is vastly different from the stories your mind is in the habit of telling.